The Mastery of Love
A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship
What Is Love?
If you're looking for a romance novel, look further! If you’re looking for a deeper understanding of how to cultivate self-love and then spread that internal state to others, definitely check out The Mastery Of Love from Don Miguel Ruiz. In similar fashion to his other great works like The Four Agreements and The Fifth Agreement, the author places a large emphasis on awareness – especially awareness of the Truth. As it is this awareness that allows self-love to flourish.
When speaking of the truth, we are speaking of the countless beliefs we have adopted about ourselves and the world through societal programming and domestication, many of which are harmful and outright destructive. In fact, much of what we are taught is that we need to be different – different from who we are in order to be “accepted” by society. How can we ever love ourselves if we believe at our core we are unacceptable? In The Mastery Of Love, you will discover that all love begins with self-love, which begins with the awareness that what we have been taught about ourselves may not be true.
Become A Skeptic
This doesn’t mean that you can’t trust people! Instead, this points to the idea that the cultivation of awareness begins with questioning everything and everyone. Do I believe this because it is MY personal truth, or do I believe this because I was told this is how it is? And if I was told this is how it is, do I still agree with that belief or is there a new empowering belief that leads to the greater unconditional love and acceptance of self?
The author states, “Don’t believe me”, “Don’t believe yourself”, and “Don’t believe anyone else”. Again, these are not statements to close yourself off from society, rather they are statements to question what you believe, regardless of the source. Each and every one of us has our own personal set of experiences and our own set of filters by which we perceive the world around us. Each and every one of us tells a “story” about what they experience, but it's just that… a “story”... the Truth on the other hand is something very different. For example, believing you are either too tall or too short, when in reality, you simply are. You are not your labels and you do not need to suffer their attachments. Instead, you can choose to love and accept who you are authentically and let your actions emanate from this place.
A few of my favorite quotes from the book!
You have the same power as any other human in the world. The main difference between you and someone else is how you apply your power, what you create with your power.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
The sense of injustice is the knife that opens a wound in our emotional body. Emotional poison is created by our reaction to what we consider injustice.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
You have a limit to the amount of abuse you will accept, but no one in the whole world abuses you more than you abuse yourself. The limit of your self-abuse is the limit you will tolerate from other people.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
Happiness never comes from outside of us.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
Other people can try to pay for your mistakes, but you will pay for your mistakes anyway.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
If you know that you are only responsible for half of the relationship, you can easily control your half. It is not up to us to control the other half.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
You don’t need to justify your love, you don’t need to explain your love; you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
You cannot change other people. You love them the way they are or you don’t. You accept them the way they are or you don’t.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
If someone wants to change you, it means you are not what that person wants.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
You make a choice, and you are responsible for your choices. Then if the choices are not working well, you do not blame yourself. You simply make another choice.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
Every relationship in your life can be healed, every relationship can be wonderful, but it’s always going to begin with you.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
Perhaps you don’t have to be honest with the whole world, but you can be honest with yourself.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
You are not responsible for what is happening in the world. You are responsible for yourself.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
Our emotions act like a filter through which we see the rest of the world.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
Don’t believe me. Don’t believe yourself. Don’t believe anyone else.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
When you no longer have emotional wounds, when you don’t have the need to believe other people just to be accepted, you see everything more clearly.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
You don’t need to justify what is true; you don’t need to explain it. What is true doesn’t need anyone’s support.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
Nothing anyone does is because of you. Once you have this awareness, and you do not take it personally, compassion and understanding will lead you to forgiveness.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
We are born with the right to be happy, with the right to enjoy life. We are not here to suffer. Whoever wants to suffer is welcome to suffer, but we don’t have to suffer.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
Trying to be what you are not expends all your energy. Being what you are doesn’t require any effort.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
Surrender all those ideas about being what you are not, and become what you really are. When you surrender to your nature, to what you really are, you no longer suffer.Don Miguel Ruiz : The Mastery of Love
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